Today I going to be a little serious with y’all. Im not sure if anyone noticed but my social media has downed in numbers over the years. Recently I just gave up. In due time I will be back, trust. When on social media with the way the apps want dictate what’s on your timeline or suggest things it’s just a whole irritation. On Instagram particularly I followed pages with little babies, the cute chocolate ones. So instagram started suggesting the toddlers that look and dress like whole adults. I hate it! I don’t want to see kids dressed like my peers.
So today’s topic Adultification. So in recent studies it shows black girls, particularly those age 5 to 14, are supposedly more sexually mature and know more about adult topics than white girls in the same age group. The study showed black girls as less innocent, less in need of protection also needing less support and less comfort as the same young white girl her age. Leaving our young baby girls to be seen as combative and hypersexualized.
With that being said not only are our young queens being targeted but our young kings are also. It was also found black boys, as young as age 10, are more likely to be regarded as older than they look and often suspicious. Leaving our children open for bigger consequences even if far from deserved.
Our black children are five times more likely than white kids to be suspended from school with a higher percentage of being charged with a crime whether in school or the justice system. These things are a form of malicious dehumanization that robs our children of their hope and innocence that’s formed through childhood. Something they don’t or won’t get because of the skin tone.
Think about this when you dress your kids. Think about this when you speak to your kids. Really think about this when you act in front of your kids. Hell all of thee above goes for all kids not just your own. We are as a whole, kids included are hot commodities, feared but most importantly miss guided and misunderstood.
Take care loves,
Netta B 🖤💜🖤
Hello my BeaYOUtifuls,
First and foremost let’s take a moment of silence for the Murder of “She’s Got to Have it” season two. ....Sheesh! Over our very own holiday in honor of our fallen soldiers who were mass buried. I took my holiday time to relax and reflect. When I was done I decided to binge on Netflix. If you know me then you are familiar with how I feel about television. For the birds 🐦. Lol. I kept overlooking SGTHI. I wasn’t sure if I was ready for her. To say the least I was not a fan in the beginning. Don’t get it twisted, I was very tickled by the introduction of the cast. Ultimately it wasn’t till the very last episode of season 1 that I was wooed and fell in love with Miss Darling. That is when I felt she was a beast who was open and fierce in her very own untitled beauty. She unshielded her self owning everything while showing no fear for her consequences.
This season was all me! The known unknown artist very much like me but none of me. I appreciated her in all her vulnerability and felt the urge to follow her path. Seeing how I could control and grasp my future right along side of her. I got a chance to open up thoughts I had pushed aside and excuses that I’ve carried and spread out. Her cast mates opened my eyes to past and present people of my life. Her visit to PR made me happy. The strange fruit painting had me in awe 😍. All I could say was this is America 💪🏾. Yes ma’am you are my mirror! (If the image ever goes on market I will purchase it.)
Nola daring is you Nola daring is me I look forward to season three when Nola and I can ride this wave of self love, black love and love love. Just so we can conquer that wave.
Even though there has been a story about “The Central Park Five” made a couple years ago. This limited time viewing addition created by Ava DuVernay that’s been added to the Netflix lineup was very much appreciated. The candid message from beginning to end. rawness mixed with the factual testimony of people involved opened a massive flood gate of emotions. I knew about the story but didn’t know the story it was amazing!
This past week viewing the two above titles pushes me to do better. SGTHI because I am Nola Darling looking to make my own mark searching for my true individuality while keeping a open mind for love. While WTSU shows you it’s a whole world that is potentially waiting to collude against you because of your race whether it’s just a hint of brown. You have to stand with ten toes down and keep your faith and hope. The main thing is educate yourself and your children. We, our ignorance and mouths are our biggest and sometimes worst enemy.
These two titles reminds me why I write. Specifically why I wrote “MELANIN” and who I wrote it for. See how one season, one thirty minute to hour episode, how one sentence or statement can have so much power and effect on a person. I want us all in the know. No more ignorance or settling for just anyone or anything. I want us to stop making excuses and live with great fortitude.
Netta B. 🖤💜🖤
I would like to start a blog if you have any topics, ideas questions throw them to me in the "Whats on your mind" section.