I know I been MIA but I also told y’all that was going to happen. I haven’t been totally upfront with what’s going on in my life and for that I’m not sorry. Lmaooo. Naw but seriously, I plan on hoping on my YouTube and being more translucent to you. By the top of 2020 I will use my YouTube channel to tell what’s been going on and happening. I want to talk laugh and encourage so I will use my own story as a pedestal. I hope you love me and if you don’t be keep it to yourself hit the “thumbs down” or just be prepared to be blocked. I love blocking people. My energy is all I got. I hope all of you have been well chasing and choke holding dreams and goals. I promise the next persons happiness and genuine smile makes me happy. I just want to be great and see others doing the same. Stay looking out for me and my foolishness I plan on making my YouTube nothing but facts about me and my life along with happiness and encouragement. I love you all. Till next time.
How has everybody been? I hope well and if you have been struggling with something know it won’t last. Hit head on or just allow time to heal it. Trust me. 🖤
So I’ve been getting some feed back on books. I wish y’all would reviews, good or bad I will love you the same. 😍. Thank you for indulging in “MELANIN” I wrote that with a purpose it was really on my heart to produce that. I am extremely glad you liking my affirmation books. I wrote them not only for you but myself.
I get a lot of feed back on my edits. First I apologize, I am a one woman team. I write format edit build covers everything on my own. It could be a downfall or maybe not. I have always wanted to be in the industry since my single digits. First I wanted to be the actress as I got older I wanted to deliver the message and become the writer. If you partake in my writings you know my books are like movies, a lot of dialect. So from here on out I will focus on that, movies.
I encourage you to read my books. They are available in all sorts of price ranges on different platforms. I also encourage you to write a truthful review, words can’t kill me. They may slump me but I will live while processing the information. A star rating is even greatly appreciated ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ lol.
Follow me on your favorite platform, I’m on all of them. I will be giving away free digital books here soon so be looking out.
As always I love you all even when I hide from you. Keep your head up and baby jus smiiillle smile fooorrr meee. Talk to you later loves.
Netta B. 🖤💜🖤
August 3, 2019 It’s LEO Season 🥰
Today I going to be a little serious with y’all. Im not sure if anyone noticed but my social media has downed in numbers over the years. Recently I just gave up. In due time I will be back, trust. When on social media with the way the apps want dictate what’s on your timeline or suggest things it’s just a whole irritation. On Instagram particularly I followed pages with little babies, the cute chocolate ones. So instagram started suggesting the toddlers that look and dress like whole adults. I hate it! I don’t want to see kids dressed like my peers.
So today’s topic Adultification. So in recent studies it shows black girls, particularly those age 5 to 14, are supposedly more sexually mature and know more about adult topics than white girls in the same age group. The study showed black girls as less innocent, less in need of protection also needing less support and less comfort as the same young white girl her age. Leaving our young baby girls to be seen as combative and hypersexualized.
With that being said not only are our young queens being targeted but our young kings are also. It was also found black boys, as young as age 10, are more likely to be regarded as older than they look and often suspicious. Leaving our children open for bigger consequences even if far from deserved.
Our black children are five times more likely than white kids to be suspended from school with a higher percentage of being charged with a crime whether in school or the justice system. These things are a form of malicious dehumanization that robs our children of their hope and innocence that’s formed through childhood. Something they don’t or won’t get because of the skin tone.
Think about this when you dress your kids. Think about this when you speak to your kids. Really think about this when you act in front of your kids. Hell all of thee above goes for all kids not just your own. We are as a whole, kids included are hot commodities, feared but most importantly miss guided and misunderstood.
Take care loves,
Netta B 🖤💜🖤
Hello my BeaYOUtifuls,
First and foremost let’s take a moment of silence for the Murder of “She’s Got to Have it” season two. ....Sheesh! Over our very own holiday in honor of our fallen soldiers who were mass buried. I took my holiday time to relax and reflect. When I was done I decided to binge on Netflix. If you know me then you are familiar with how I feel about television. For the birds 🐦. Lol. I kept overlooking SGTHI. I wasn’t sure if I was ready for her. To say the least I was not a fan in the beginning. Don’t get it twisted, I was very tickled by the introduction of the cast. Ultimately it wasn’t till the very last episode of season 1 that I was wooed and fell in love with Miss Darling. That is when I felt she was a beast who was open and fierce in her very own untitled beauty. She unshielded her self owning everything while showing no fear for her consequences.
This season was all me! The known unknown artist very much like me but none of me. I appreciated her in all her vulnerability and felt the urge to follow her path. Seeing how I could control and grasp my future right along side of her. I got a chance to open up thoughts I had pushed aside and excuses that I’ve carried and spread out. Her cast mates opened my eyes to past and present people of my life. Her visit to PR made me happy. The strange fruit painting had me in awe 😍. All I could say was this is America 💪🏾. Yes ma’am you are my mirror! (If the image ever goes on market I will purchase it.)
Nola daring is you Nola daring is me I look forward to season three when Nola and I can ride this wave of self love, black love and love love. Just so we can conquer that wave.
Even though there has been a story about “The Central Park Five” made a couple years ago. This limited time viewing addition created by Ava DuVernay that’s been added to the Netflix lineup was very much appreciated. The candid message from beginning to end. rawness mixed with the factual testimony of people involved opened a massive flood gate of emotions. I knew about the story but didn’t know the story it was amazing!
This past week viewing the two above titles pushes me to do better. SGTHI because I am Nola Darling looking to make my own mark searching for my true individuality while keeping a open mind for love. While WTSU shows you it’s a whole world that is potentially waiting to collude against you because of your race whether it’s just a hint of brown. You have to stand with ten toes down and keep your faith and hope. The main thing is educate yourself and your children. We, our ignorance and mouths are our biggest and sometimes worst enemy.
These two titles reminds me why I write. Specifically why I wrote “MELANIN” and who I wrote it for. See how one season, one thirty minute to hour episode, how one sentence or statement can have so much power and effect on a person. I want us all in the know. No more ignorance or settling for just anyone or anything. I want us to stop making excuses and live with great fortitude.
Netta B. 🖤💜🖤
Hey Young Pearls,
A few days ago I talked to a old friend or acquaintance whatever you would like to call her. Before y’all start throwing the names please know I’ve always adored her. I’ve always considered her a friend if I had to put a title. We spoke for the first time in years. Decade plus via the phone, and it was easy unforced and pleasant. We reminisced, laughed and even shared.
I learned a lot about myself in that short but broad conversation. One thing that stuck with me is she told me I was “unpredictable”. Hearing this froze me a little bit maybe even shocked me. I thought I was very predictable. I always considered myself a open book, creature of habit. I was either goofy or serious and not very friendly to non-circle members. To know me I had to know you. Point blank period!
She made me think and contemplate my life, the people in my life, and previous and present relationships. Is this still a trait I carry? Most importantly what has it done to my past friendships/relationships? I guess I know I can be rough round edges. Unpredictable seems unstable to me. Emotionally I could say I’m unstable, I love hard...it has no bounds. So I wonder do others see this in me. Do you?
I applaud and respect her for telling me that. I appreciate it. I’ve been wanting to seek therapy for years. No I don’t think I’m crazy. Maybe a little coo-coo but not insane. Yet. Lmaooo. I’ve been wanting to seek help because I need a outlet. I’m a ticking time bomb. I don’t want to tell a family member or friend. They don’t give a damn and if they do, they just to tell it. Ain’t nobody got time for that! Our conversation vouched my already known personal needs.
If you’re like me and don’t have a outlet. You don’t have someone that you ultimately trust to tell things to like thoughts and feelings with. I urge you to seek your outlet that may very well be therapy.
Black people stop thinking it’s crazy to talk to a counselor, therapist or life coach. Y’all talk and run ya mouth all day to probably a legit crazy person. Might as well pay someone to keep your secrets and offer some real life changing help.
See I don’t have a outlet because when I left the squad of 31 flavors my lil click from high school. That really wasn’t our name. I just said that because we was all different shapes sizes and races. When we parted I never allowed myself to get close to people to build friendships. Maybe they fucked me up I don’t know but I seeked old friends and old lovers. X-ing out any potential that didn’t seem familiar enough from my past and totally declining them from my present and future altogether. I have to tell you that is not the move. You can not progress without progression. It’s always forward and never backwards.
If someone is elevating and gravitating towards you welcome them with open arms because it’s hard and even though we want to we can not do it all on our own. I’m just starting to realize this but ultimately owning it.
Later Young Pearl 🖤💜🖤
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